Dua for Having Difficult Conversations

In life and work we often come up against having to have very difficult conversations. It may be with our relatives, spouses, our boss at work or our colleagues. As Muslims, we often take our guidance from the Quran and Sunnah when dealing with any of life’s situations, difficult or not, and this case is not any different.
I’ve come across this dua by Musa (AS), in a situation which is so very emblematic of facing a difficulty and so beautiful in its simplicity and humanity. Musa (AS) was asked by Allah (SWT) to go and face Firaun in Egypt. Keep in mind the context of this request, Musa (AS) had, by mistake, already killed a man and was being looked for by the police. The police had an order to actually kill him on sight. Everyone in Egypt knew him and his face because he grew up in the Firaun’s household, so by him even entering Egypt, the police will eventually find out that he is there.

In this troubling context, Musa (AS) asks Allah (SWT) for the following:

… and what we learn from this dua is the following:
1.  When faced with a challenge or obstacle, we need to pray to Allah to help us calm down, steady our hearts (chests) so that we can face the situation and what we need to do head-on. Pray that He equips us with the intellect, resilience and courage to face it and succeed. Nabi Musa (AS) was told to challenge Firaun, the most powerful man in Egypt, and return to the same place from where he was exiled from, yet there were no excuses or conditions, and all he requested was for Allah to make the task easy for him, to “open his chest”, calm him down and give him the strength and resilience to do what he needed to do. There is tremendous power in this.

2.  When we are required to deliver a difficult message, or if we are struggling to articulate ourselves to someone, the first step is to understand what needs to be done and then all we have to do is make this Dua, with full conviction, and the rest will take care of itself. Even if things don’t work out the way we want them to, we can at least be content that we had done our part and sought Allah’s guidance, and that Allah has something better in store for us.

3.  Realise that Success in this world depends on only two things: Our Effort and Allah’s Help.
May Allah (SWT) guide us All!
Aameen.

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